There is a Buffy the Vampire episode in season 1 called Out of Sight, Out of Mind. In the fandom it’s called Invisible Girl, and it’s the story of a girl who is so ignored in high school that she essentially becomes invisible. I get it. I feel invisible a lot of the time. In the grocery store, people seem to have no problem cutting me off and walking over me. If I’m driving, forget it. It’s like my car isn’t even on the road.
While it’s not possible to actually become invisible, it is certainly possible to feel invisible. In the Buffy episode, we get to see Marcie trying to interact with different people and being ignored. It’s painful to watch, but it’s even more painful to live it.
I know a lot of why I feel invisible has to do with low self-esteem. I’ll own that one, but a lot of it has to do with a complete and total lack of courtesy in other people. Now before you say anything, I’m sure I do it to, and I’m not saying I don’t, so don’t go thinking that I think I’m perfect. Case in point, yesterday, I was at the grocery store, and while the cashier greeted me, she never once looked at me, nor did the bagger. And the other day Red Robin with my son, we had to ask 3 times for napkins before we got them, and we never got silverware or even the offer of a refill on our drinks. And before you ask, no it wasn’t busy. It was like we didn’t exist in the server’s world
I don’t think that I’m the only person who feels that way. If I am, then I’m probably in need of a serious psychiatric intervention or something. But I really don’t think that’s the case. I think it’s more a case of people getting so caught up in themselves, they forget about the rest of the world. That’s not good. Take time to look around you and to look at other people. Don’t make them feel invisible.